Resentment...
Why is this such a horrible thing? Why can't we as humans communicate and tell each other more clearly before things build to such levels? Why do we feel attacked when someone's resentment is thrown out at us?
Questions that all break down to communication.
Sometimes people feel intimidated to speak up. Sometimes we are inadequate talkers and cannot explain our position clearly for others to understand. Sometimes we may feel others are not interested in hearing our position or that the lack of actually caring about our position occurs.
But in the end resentment is something we have because we did not communicate well enough or someone was not listening well enough. Do we have the right to throw that at others? This be an unknown. In the end many do and all involved are hurt by it.
Remember, if at all possible to try and consider all your options before releasing this type of interaction at others. If you know you are resenting something it may be best to cut it off at the pass and do your damndest to explain that to the person before it becomes ugly.
Friendships are important things. So remember if someone throws resentments at you and has left you stunned with no clear understanding, it may be time to step back evaluate the information you are given and think about where that puts your tenuous position now.
Clarification is a good thing, but perhaps not in an emotional state. Work through it with those around you, the knowledge that can be observed from outsiders can sometimes be clarifying for us. But if the relationship is important don't give up on them or yourself.
If we are deeply hurt by something and it is effecting us in ways than more than likely, whether we like it or not, the relationship is important. Don't let those go.
We are not islands onto ourselves and we usually have more than one path to us. Find the roads, use them, that is why they were built.
Friendship is something special and good, so do your best at enjoying it.
Peace.
Questions that all break down to communication.
Sometimes people feel intimidated to speak up. Sometimes we are inadequate talkers and cannot explain our position clearly for others to understand. Sometimes we may feel others are not interested in hearing our position or that the lack of actually caring about our position occurs.
But in the end resentment is something we have because we did not communicate well enough or someone was not listening well enough. Do we have the right to throw that at others? This be an unknown. In the end many do and all involved are hurt by it.
Remember, if at all possible to try and consider all your options before releasing this type of interaction at others. If you know you are resenting something it may be best to cut it off at the pass and do your damndest to explain that to the person before it becomes ugly.
Friendships are important things. So remember if someone throws resentments at you and has left you stunned with no clear understanding, it may be time to step back evaluate the information you are given and think about where that puts your tenuous position now.
Clarification is a good thing, but perhaps not in an emotional state. Work through it with those around you, the knowledge that can be observed from outsiders can sometimes be clarifying for us. But if the relationship is important don't give up on them or yourself.
If we are deeply hurt by something and it is effecting us in ways than more than likely, whether we like it or not, the relationship is important. Don't let those go.
We are not islands onto ourselves and we usually have more than one path to us. Find the roads, use them, that is why they were built.
Friendship is something special and good, so do your best at enjoying it.
Peace.
posted by E at 9:55 AM
1 Comments:
To be human is to have faults... one being resentment. It’s natural as all feelings are. The key is to find a way to recognize when that is what you’re feeling and not something more. To understand that your hurt is something you need to deal with sooner rather than later. But really, it’s important to know that when someone is feeling it towards you it has roots someplace. It’s important to avoid reacting to the hurt feelings and find out what those roots are to fix it. Easier said than done... :-p
Posted 5/24/2004 at 7:47 PM by BluDreamscape
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