9/17/2004

Advice

Confidence is good. Belief in your reality is good. However do not be so closed to the fact that more than likely our worldview is skewed by that confidence.

Sometimes step away from that and view oneself. You may be surprised to see what is found.

On that thought remember when advice is given to think seriously about it. Did the advice piss you off? Maybe. Did it seem cruel and unusually harsh, maybe? But it is based on someone else’s reality, not yours.

Advise from friends and acquaintances are things we need to hear. Even when they may seem harsh, think about what it takes for a person to give you that advise. This is someone stepping out and doing what they think is best. To attack them for that honesty may not be a wise choice. Denial is a strong force in each of us. Try and view advise from a different standpoint. See where they are coming from.

They may have a bad view, but it may be the only one they see. Hence snapping back is truly not productive for anyone. Also stepping away and looking at advise from a distance may allow you to see how it may help. Sometimes we may be too close to a situation that may be sensitive for us to even see the problem.

Advice is a wonderful thing. Take it for what it is. Someone caring. They cared enough to put forth their thoughts and wisdom on it. They cared enough even when it may piss you off or put friendships on the line. To have all that is very good. To get others to share their believes on a subject is awesome. Think of all the combined knowledge one gets when evaluating advice. It is truly unique.

We always have options in life. We have opportunities when others share with us as well. I would say at least listen and step away from any situation for a moment when advice is given. Evaluate it fairly and not in a heated judgment. Cause true advice is given in the context of caring.

1 Comments:

Blogger Tamara said...

Very true. It's hard but it's best to take a step back and really think about what's been said. You may not take the advice still but at least your friend knows you gave it serious thought and didn't dismiss it out of hand.

Posted 9/17/2004 at 8:04 AM by hodgetj

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